Parent Teacher Conference From Hell

I have a lot to blog about so it will be broken up in to different subjects.

First comes the dreaded parent teacher conference I had with Angel's teacher.

We had the conference on Wednesday after school and I made Lee come too.

The teacher starts to go over and tell us all of Angel's problems, *the irony of the name*.

Here is what Mrs. T told us: She fidgets in her seat too much, does not pay enough attention to her work and makes careless mistakes, talks too much, blames others for her mistakes, is easily annoyed by others, runs around and climbs excessively when she should be seated, loses her temper easily , actively defies and refuses to comply with adults requests, is spiteful and vindictive, bullies others, is physically cruel to people, and has a poor relationship with peers.

Then she gave us a paper with notes on it that says, "If Angel could stay focused, I believe she could become at least above average, academically. Her relationship with peers is poor due to the fact that Angel constantly finds something to tattle about, push them in line, raise her voice to them, stick out her tongue, pout, has spit on them in the past and sometimes has trouble keeping her hands to herself. I have had to move her desk several times and regardless of who she sits next to, problems arise. When I talk to Angel about things she does to disrupt the class and ask her if she understands why she should not do these things, she says,"yes ma'am" but almost immediately returns to doing them."

So I ask the teacher to define, "Actively defies requests" for me, then she says that she believes it means to just not do something even they know they should.
Me: You mean be argumentative?
Mrs.T: No, just not following rules.
Me: What about physically cruel?
Mrs.T: When she steps out of line she pushes her way back into her spot.
Me: And that's physically cruel?
Mrs. T: Yes.
*OMG are you fucking kidding me! Physically cruel would be what I'd like to do to you right now... you know stab you in the eye with a pencil. And active defiance is when a child is asked to do something and says no.... GRRRRRRR*
I kept my cool and continued to question the teacher....
Me: What about this running around and climbing excessively?
Mrs. T: She likes to turn around in her seat a lot and talk to other people, or continually get up from her desk and come talk to me.
Me: Uh huh, I see....
Me: The spitting incident you speak of... if I'm not mistaken, that was toward the beginning of the year correct?
Mrs.T: Yes she was arguing with another child and spat on her.
Me: Wasn't this just one day after another little boy spit on another child and didn't get a punishment for it?
Mrs.T: I made him pull a card, but yes it was after that.
Me: Oh... just checking
Me: So why do you consider tattling a problem?
Mrs.T: Because she tends to tell on others a lot
Me: Why would she feel the need to tell on others so much, if there is no reason to tattle?
Mrs. T: Usually because other children have tattled on her for something small
Me: Oh... so tattling is a problem in your classroom with several children
Mrs. T: Yes, we consider it bullying
Me: Well, I've spoken with Angel's previous teachers, and asked them about her behavior in their rooms; they both said that she was one of their brightest students and didn't cause many problems.
Mrs. T: Well first grade is different!

The conference was over and I collected my family and hauled ass out of there.
I was so irritated. I know that Angel has some issues to work over, but this teacher is blowing them way out of proportion. Angel does have a problem raising her voice when she feels the need to defend herself, she does not bully others though, this teacher has yet to see Angel really lose her temper.... boy I wait for that day, and turning around in her seat is not running and climbing too much. I swear this teacher has the personality of a brick wall. You know what I'm talking about.... I'm bigger than you I've been around longer, so I'm better and stronger than you puny kids will ever be. I am sticking by my statement before! Come hell or high water my daughter will be attending a different school next year!